Wendell's Diary

Family relationships are some of the most complex and enduring bonds we experience. They begin as something obligatory—people we’re born into living with, growing up alongside, and enduring during our formative years. But as we grow older and leave the nest, these relationships have the potential to transform. They shift from being a necessity into something optional, and with patience and effort, they can emerge as profound and meaningful friendships. This transformation is not easy, but it’s deeply rewarding. The Philosophy of Emergence offers a lens to understand how family relationships evolve naturally, growing into friendships that are both fulfilling and enduring. --- 1. From Obligations to Friendships In childhood, family relationships are defined by proximity and obligation. You share a home, meals, and often endure the frustrations of clashing personalities. But as you grow up and move out, the dynamic changes. Suddenly, the relationship is no longer forced. It becomes option...

For much of life, we’re taught that fulfillment comes from external connections—finding a partner, building friendships, or seeking validation from others. But over time, I’ve learned something different: true completeness comes not from external sources but from within. It’s about embracing solitude, pursuing meaningful work, and realizing that your own actions can make you whole. --- 1. The Journey to Patience and Self-Reliance There was a time when I saw obtaining a wife as the ultimate goal, the greatest good. I believed that having someone to share life with was essential to feeling complete. But life had other plans. Despite my efforts, that goal remained unobtainable, and I had to confront a hard truth: just because we deeply want something doesn’t mean we can have it. That realization taught me patience—not just patience in waiting, but patience in accepting life as it is. Over time, I began to understand that my worth and completeness weren’t tied to whether or not I achieved ...

For much of my life, I held onto the dream of becoming a husband and a father. It was a core part of who I was and what I aspired to. But recently, I’ve had to take a step back and reassess that dream, and part of that process has been influenced by watching Taylor the Fiend’s content. It’s been an eye-opening, challenging, and thought-provoking journey. Swallowing Difficult Pills Taylor the Fiend talks a lot about the realities of modern dating, and while I don’t agree with everything he says, some of his points really hit home. He’s made me question aspects of relationships I never thought to examine before. For example, the idea that modern relationships can often be transactional or shallow has been hard to accept, but it’s something I’ve seen reflected in my own experiences. Coming to terms with these ideas hasn’t been easy. I’ve had to swallow the pill that not all dreams come true, and that maybe the kind of relationship I envisioned—one built on mutual love, respect, and tradit...

In recent conversations, we’ve explored a range of interconnected ideas, starting with the Australian law banning under-16s from accessing social media. What began as a critique of this law quickly expanded into a deeper examination of education, purpose, and the fundamental challenges of preparing young people for life in a rapidly changing world. Revisiting the Social Media Ban The initial topic revolved around the limitations placed on young people’s access to technology and platforms for self-expression. The ban felt like a step backward, stifling creativity and independence. This led to a broader discussion about how society could empower young people rather than exclude them, particularly through education systems designed to foster creativity, community, and purpose. Rethinking Education We envisioned a schooling system that moves beyond rigid structures and focuses on social integration, emotional intelligence, and practical life skills. Schools should be places where students ...

Simone de Beauvoir and Jean-Paul Sartre's relationship remains one of the most intriguing and influential partnerships in the history of philosophy. Their bond, rooted in intellectual camaraderie and existential exploration, has inspired many, including myself. However, while I admire their profound connection and shared philosophical journey, I diverge from their practice of maintaining an open relationship. In my view, a monogamous partnership would have better aligned with the depth and intimacy they cultivated. #### The Sartre-de Beauvoir Dynamic Simone de Beauvoir and Jean-Paul Sartre defied conventional norms by engaging in an open relationship, agreeing to pursue other romantic and sexual connections while maintaining their central partnership. This arrangement, while revolutionary, allowed them to explore individual freedoms and experiences. Yet, it also brought complexities and challenges that, from my perspective, detracted from the potential depth of their bond. Their re...

In a world where relationships and sexual dynamics are often portrayed as fast-paced and transient, choosing to save yourself sexually for the right person is a decision that requires reflection and intentionality. It’s about valuing your emotional and physical well-being and waiting for a connection that feels truly meaningful. Here’s why this approach can be fulfilling and how to navigate it in today’s society. **Valuing Emotional Connection** Choosing to wait for the right person emphasizes the importance of emotional connection in a relationship. Physical intimacy is deeply personal, and sharing it with someone who truly understands and respects you can enhance the bond you share. This approach allows for a deeper connection to form, built on trust, respect, and mutual understanding rather than just physical attraction. **Fostering Mutual Respect** Saving yourself for the right person fosters a sense of mutual respect. It encourages both partners to appreciate each other’s boundari...

In contemplating whether the world is improving, it's essential to look beyond technological and economic metrics and focus on our social fabric—relationships, community cohesion, and how we relate to one another. Here’s a reflection on whether we’re growing together as a society and fostering better relationships. **Positive Social Trends** One of the most encouraging trends is the increased awareness and acceptance of diverse identities. Societal understanding and support for different cultural backgrounds, genders, and sexual orientations have grown significantly. Movements advocating for equality and inclusivity have made strides in creating a more welcoming and understanding society. This acceptance fosters richer, more empathetic relationships and a broader sense of community. Improved communication has also played a role in enhancing social connections. While technology is not the focus here, the ability to maintain relationships over long distances and build communities bas...